There’s this moment when you know you’re in transition—you’re moving forward, growing, evolving—but somehow, all you can see is what’s still unfinished. What’s still uncertain. What’s still waiting to be resolved.

That’s exactly where I’ve been lately, and I can feel how deeply this Human Design Gate 22 (Grace) and Gate 47 (Realization) transit is showing up in my life.

Pushing for Answers Before They’re Ready

I’ve been working with a group to refine my business messaging, and I recently noticed something about myself. I’ve been trying to force clarity where it doesn’t yet exist. I’ve asked questions, gathered feedback, and tried different approaches—all in an effort to get the answers now. Not because they’re ready to come, but because I’m afraid of not finishing what I started.

In the past, I’ve let things go when I didn’t have a clear next step, so now, out of fear of repeating that pattern, I’ve been pushing for answers instead of trusting the timing of their arrival. But here’s the thing—I do trust my process. I do know that the right insights will come at the right time. And yet, I still catch myself in this pattern of grasping for clarity, instead of allowing space for it to emerge.

This is Gate 47’s shadow at work—the pressure to make sense of something before it’s time.

The New Table & The Waiting Game

This energy has also been playing out in my personal life in an almost laughably literal way. My husband and I have lived in our home for over 22 years, and we’ve been slowly making updates. Recently, we ordered a gorgeous custom-made kitchen table. It’s solid, beautiful, and exactly what we wanted.

But here’s the problem—we also ordered new chairs. And the chairs are delayed. They’re coming from overseas, and we have no idea when they’ll arrive.  So, for now, we have this beautiful, brand-new table surrounded by our old, mismatched chairs.

And suddenly, instead of celebrating what’s new, I’m obsessing over what’s missing. I’m fixated on what doesn’t quite match, what still needs to change, and how the chairs aren’t here yet. I’m not letting myself fully love the table, because I’m so focused on everything else that isn’t yet aligned. What if they take months to come? 

And isn’t that just so human? To be in the middle of something beautiful and growing, yet fixate on what’s unfinished?

This is Gate 22’s lesson—the grace to surrender to the timing of things.

Sun in Gate 22: The Art of Emotional Presence

Gate 22 is about emotional grace, but not in the sense of always being composed or poised. It’s about being fully present with what is, without resistance. When we resist what we feel, or try to control how things unfold, we fall into the shadow of dishonor—either denying our emotions or letting them dictate our actions.

In the past, I might have let this frustration about the chairs pull me into dissatisfaction. But now? I’m choosing to sit at my beautiful new table, even with the old chairs, and allow myself to love what’s already here. Because the chairs will arrive when they arrive. Just like clarity in my business will arrive when it’s ready.

This is gracious surrender—not giving up, but giving in to the timing of life.

Earth in Gate 47: The Pressure to Make Sense of It All

Gate 47 is the struggle to find meaning before meaning is ready to emerge. This gate is tied to Gate 64 (Confusion),which was defined by the Earth in the last transit. Now, the Earth has moved to Gate 47 (Realization), asking us to begin making sense of what’s been swirling in our awareness—but without forcing resolution.

This is exactly what I’ve been experiencing in my business process. The answers aren’t here yet, but they will be. The structure I’m building is solid—just like the new table. But some pieces aren’t in place yet. And that doesn’t mean the whole thing is wrong—it just means it’s still unfolding.

This is the practice of transmutation—allowing clarity to come in its own time, trusting that the insights will land when they are meant to.

Because the truth is, we are always in the middle of an unfolding. There will always be another question, another missing piece, another thing waiting to fall into place. But if we let that stop us from fully embracing the now, we’ll never feel whole.

The energy of Gate 22 and Gate 47 is here to remind us to surrender to the process. To allow clarity to come in its own time. To trust in our own enoughness—even when things feel incomplete.

The Dance Between Gate 22 & Gate 47: The Struggle to Keep Moving Forward

I’ve noticed this pattern in myself for years. I get inspired, I get all in, and then I hit resistance. Maybe it’s external—like when my husband and I start a home project, and then he gives me pushback on a decision. Maybe it’s internal—like when I start a big business endeavor and suddenly realize life needs me in other ways, and I feel like I just can’t do it all.

And I see it so clearly right now.

This fear of not finishing—of stopping before the transformation is complete—is part of why I’ve been so fixated on figuring things out right now in my business. But I’ve also come to realize that this fear doesn’t actually serve me.

Gate 47 reminds me that I don’t have to have all the answers today. Gate 22 reminds me to allow the timing to unfold gracefully. And together, they show me that the key is trusting my ability to keep going, even when I don’t have certainty.

I don’t have to push to the finish line right now. But I also don’t have to stop just because I don’t have every step mapped out.

This is the balance between surrender and perseverance.

🔹 Where do you find yourself stopping when things get uncertain?

🔹 Are you resisting something because you’re afraid of the work ahead, or because it’s truly not right for you?

🔹 How can you allow others to be part of your process—without feeling like you have to compromise who you are in the process?

Because that’s the real work here—allowing relationships to support us, but not letting them pull us off course.

Venus Retrograde in Gate 21: Reworking Power & Control

This brings me right to Venus retrograde in Gate 21 (Control/Self-Regulation).

I’ve spent so much of my life trying to balance standing confidently in my individual nature with my deep connection to relationships.

I know I am here to make a contribution simply by being me. That’s my Human Design. That’s what my chart shows me over and over again. But the theme of relationships runs through all of it.

Because I am not meant to do it all alone.

The challenge—and this is where Venus retrograde is pushing me—is to let others be part of the process without feeling like I have to shrink or compromise.

It’s a delicate dance. In the past, I have either overcompromised to keep the peace or pushed forward too hard, feeling like I had to do everything myself. Neither of those patterns truly honors my energy.

Venus retrograde is here to help us reexamine our patterns in relationships—how we give and receive support, how we navigate power and control, and how we can regulate ourselves instead of reacting.

✨ Where are you gripping too tightly to control?

✨ Where do you give in too easily, even when you don’t truly want to?

✨ What would it feel like to trust your own timing—without forcing things, but also without giving up when it gets hard?

This is the lesson I keep coming back to:

🔹 I don’t have to figure everything out all at once.

🔹 I don’t have to back down just because something feels challenging.

🔹 I can stand confidently in who I am—without shrinking or overpowering.

That’s the true meaning of self-regulation. That’s what Venus retrograde is showing us all.

Venus Moves into Gate 17: The Influence of Opinions

And now, Venus prepares to retrograde from Gate 21 back into Gate 17 (Opinions) on March 9, bringing a shift from control to influence.

If Gate 21 was about our relationship with personal power and self-regulation, returning to Gate 17 asks us to take another look at:

🗣️ What opinions do we hold onto—and where do they come from?

🗣️ How do we influence others through what we believe?

🗣️ Are we allowing external validation to dictate our sense of self-worth?

This transition from Gate 21 back to Gate 17 feels so relevant to what I’ve been experiencing.

In my business, I’ve been working on refining my message, and I’ve caught myself seeking feedback—sometimes pushing for clarity before it’s ready. But now, with Venus shifting into Gate 17, I can feel the deeper lesson:

💡 Are we gathering opinions for genuine refinement, or are we seeking external validation to ease our discomfort with uncertainty?

This is where Radical Self-Trust comes in.

Can I hold my own vision, my own process, my own timing—without needing someone else to tell me I’m on the right track?

Venus in Gate 17 invites us to examine whose voices we caregiving our authority to. Because while feedback is useful, at the end of the day, the most important opinion about your path is your own.

Mercury in Gate 17: The Mind’s Search for Certainty

Mercury is now in Gate 17 (Opinions), and as it prepares to go retrograde on March 15, I can already feel the pull toward re-examining my own thought processes.

I have spent so much time trying to get things “right.”

Not just in my business, but in so many areas of my life—relationships, decisions, self-expression. There’s this subtle pressure (sometimes not-so-subtle) to have the “right” answer, the “right” approach, the “right” way of showing up.

But Gate 17 reminds me that opinions evolve.

What I believe today might not be what I believe a year from now. And that’s okay. That’s growth.

💡 What beliefs or opinions are you holding onto that may need to shift?

💡 Are you allowing yourself to stay open to new ways of thinking?

I’ve been sitting with these questions lately—especially as I refine my message in my business.

✨ Am I shaping my work based on what feels true for me, or am I trying to fit into what I think will be most accepted?

✨ Am I looking for clarity, or am I looking for external validation?

This is a big distinction.

Because when Mercury goes retrograde right here in Gate 17, it’s going to ask all of us to go back and rethink our perspectives.

What have we been so sure about that might not actually be as solid as we thought?

Venus Joins Mercury in Gate 17: Questioning Self-Worth & Influence

And now, Venus is about to join Mercury in Gate 17 on March 9.

This adds another layer to the re-evaluation process because Venus governs relationships, values, and self-worth.

💭 How much of our self-worth is tied to being “right” or having the “right” opinions?

💭 How do we seek approval for what we believe?

💭 Are we truly standing in our own knowing, or are we subtly molding ourselves based on what others expect?

This hits deep for me.

Because I see how much of my own journey has been about balancing my individuality (who I am and what I know to be true) with my deep desire for connection (how I relate to others and allow them into my process).

In the past, I’ve either stood so firmly in my own vision that I shut others out—or I’ve bent too much to accommodate what I think others want.

Venus and Mercury together in Gate 17 are asking:

🌀 Can I hold my truth while still allowing myself to evolve?

🌀 Can I trust that I don’t need to be “right” to be worthy?

🌀 Can I share my perspectives openly, without attachment to how they’re received?

The Big Lesson Here: Radical Self-Trust & Open-Mindedness

As someone whose life’s work is all about Radical Self-Trust, I find myself revisiting these lessons again and again.

And this transit is bringing me face-to-face with where I still seek validation.

Where I still want someone else to tell me I’m on the right track.

Where I still feel the need to prove my value by having the “right” answers.

But self-trust isn’t about having all the answers.

It’s about knowing I am still worthy, still valuable, still enough—even in the not-knowing.

🚀 Can you trust yourself even when you don’t have clarity yet?

🚀 Can you hold space for your own evolution, without judgment?

🚀 Can you stay open to what’s unfolding, instead of forcing a conclusion?

Because that’s where the real transformation happens.

Navigating This Energy With Awareness

💡 If you’re not familiar with how to work with transits, start here: Simplify in 2025: Finding Clarity Through Human Design Transits

💡 See the current transits anytime at KathyBochonko.com/transitchart

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I’d love to hear from you—how is this energy showing up in your life? Are you also navigating moments where you’re waiting for clarity? Let’s talk about it in the comments!